Meet Bobby

Hi, my name is Bobby and I am an 11 year old youth that is on Extended Society Care.  I am currently placed in a group home setting in the Kingston area and hope to be placed in a family based setting with the potential of finding my forever family.  I have recently moved to this setting and my caregivers are working hard to fully understand my needs so that a potential family is able to understand these fully as well.  I love spending time with adults, but can be guarded with sharing my hopes and dreams until I develop a trusting relationship with you.  I enjoy being outside and benefit from being actively engaged with my caregivers while doing activities.  I also like to draw, colour, play games, watch movies and cuddle.

I am currently in grade 6 and do best in a specialized school program that can meet my emotional and behavioural needs within the school setting.  I am able to be supported the best when my caregivers are actively involved with my school through communication and support.  I need additional help with reading, writing and self-regulation.

I have been able to show my ability to develop strong, positive relationships with others, but it is difficult for me to trust adults given my trauma history.  I am learning to trust but I need consistent expectations so I know adults around me will keep me safe.  I respond well to attachment based parenting and parents that understand trauma and loss.  My previous caregivers used the PACE model of parenting and I found this helpful in learning self-regulation skills.  I want a family that is kind, patient and loving.  I also hope that anyone that is able to care for me will invest the time and stand beside me through difficulties, as well as provide me with some of the material things that kids/youth enjoy as I have not been able to have this privilege in the past.

Currently I have ongoing daily support to help me with self-regulation. I have a negative sense of self, shame and anxiety that make it difficult for me to live outside of the “fight” response.  I hope to find a two parent home where there is an understanding of attachment and trauma.  I hope for caregivers that are able to separate my attachment needs from perceived behavioural choices.  I hope that when I do struggle that my caregivers are able to not take my (re)actions personally and offer me acceptance and empathy to how I may be feeling.  I do need a lot of one-to-one time and may be more successful in the country where there are no other children in the home.  I struggle with positive interactions with females and need strong guidance and support when developing relationships with females that plan to care for me.

If you are able to open your home and family to me, and are open to learning about the strategies that have worked to support my success, please call Highland Shores CAS at 613-962-9291 or 800-267-0570 and learn about how you can become a foster parent for me or for another child. 

Meet Randy

Hi, my name is Randy and I am a 17 year old youth that is in Extended Society Care.  I am currently placed in a group home setting in the Kingston area and hope to be placed in a family based setting.  I have been successful in my group home and enjoy being in the community.  I  attend school regularly and have made positive peer relationships.  My goal is to become a kind and athletic young man.  I enjoy playing and watching sports, listening to music and playing video games.

I enjoy the relationships that I have built with the staff and I like to banter about mutual interests.  At times, I need to be refocused prior to allowing this banter to carry on too much as I can get overly invested in my point.  I do well with praise and emotional support and would do well with a caregiver that ispatient, understanding and able to process my emotions or feelings about family relationships and contact that I have with family members.  I would prefer to stay in the Kingston area to maintain connections with my peer group, however I am also open to considering Belleville, Trenton and Cobourg.  I hope to attend Fleming College after I graduate from high school.

I am at my best when I am engaged in a lot of external activities and when caregivers are able to be upfront and address concerns in a timely and clear manner.  I am hoping for caregivers that can appreciate my age and the freedom that comes with being 17 years old.  I have good personal hygiene and good independence skills.  I am interested in finding a job and I enjoy coaching younger kids in sports.

If you are able to open your home and family for Randy and are interested in investing the time to get to know him and understand his needs please call Highland Shores CAS at 613-962-9291 or 800-267-0570 and ask about how you can become a foster parent.

Meet Anthony

Hi.  My name is Anthony and I am currently 14 years old.  I came into care when I was 12, as my mother worried that she would not be able to meet my needs and the needs of my siblings.  I have been diagnosed with ADHD.  Although I have not been formally diagnosed, I show signs of high functioning autism and have some cognitive delays.  I can sometimes act out and become aggressive when frustrated.  I struggle with personal space being appropriate around other children, so having a family where I am the only child or I am the youngest is the best plan for me.  I am most successful when I am highly supervised as I can be impulsive and can, at times, put others at risk.  I have demonstrated some inappropriate sexual behaviours with peers, although I can be redirected effectively and there are times when I do not fully understand my actions or the consequences of my actions.  I have an educational assessment and supports have been identified and put in place to help with my success at school, in a specialized classroom.

I am currently living in a group home so that all of my needs can be supported, but I would like to live with a family that is committed to meeting my needs and keeping me safe.  I have a strong relationship with my family and visit with my mother on some weekends.  I would like to keep my family connections and hopefully one day I will be able to live with my mother or grandparents.  It is really important that all of the people in my life are open and supportive of each other so that I know that all of the adults in my life can work as a team to support me and each other.

In order for me to succeed, I need a family that is open and willing to work with my supports or my “team” so that I can continue to develop my skills to become successful.  I love to be involved in the community and would love to join community activities where I could be assisted in developing peer relationships.  I need interactions with other peers to be supervised in order to learn appropriate interactions, due to my tendency to be very impulsive.  I respond well to routine and redirection that also holds me accountable for poor choices.  I enjoy making connections with other people and like to have fun with those around me, including playing games and sports.

If you are able to open your home and family to me, and are open to learning about the strategies that have worked to support my success, please call Highland Shores CAS at 613-962-9291 or 800-267-0570 and learn about how you can become a foster parent for me or for another child.